What I prefer to concentrate on is actual treatment of the person with ADHD. Most of us know something about ADHD and we then dismiss or accept but rarely do we actively treat. Less than 1% of people diagnosed seek treatment. I don’t mean adjusting the diet and discovering that certain stars and business personalities have ADHD and so I’m fine. I’m talking about treatment like the multi-modal approach I have talked about before.
If we look at the wife above, she is right. And it gets really difficult, no matter how patient, for the spouse to continually accept behavior. As adults with ADHD we have adapted and created management tools to get us to where we need to be. Sometimes those tools only help us and don’t present a huge amount of care for others. If her husband were coached he could bring this issue to the table. Having ADHD is not a hall pass. With proper treatment we can learn new ways to cope using medication, exercise, coaching and psychological support, when needed, to identify when we are just wrong and then accept that. Easter is approaching and forgiveness should be on our hearts. We are forgiven by our Savior and we are expected to forgive ourselves so we can then forgive the ones who love us.
If you have survived a life of untreated ADHD, you know what I mean so take the time to apologize. We often are not aware of our actions or there affect on others so accept it if they say they are hurt or disappointed. Then accept that ADHD is a mental disorder which requires specific treatment which will allow you to identify abnormal behavior and change it.